How to Make a Long Distance Relationship work?

Hi readers,

Malam ni rasa rajin nak update entri baru wakakaka. Well, aku akan menjengah ke sini jika ada topik yang best atau bosan tahap dewa taktau nak buat apa. So this night aku ada satu topik best, actually aku dapat dalam satu social page. Rasa nak terpanggil nak share, that's it. How to make a long distance relationship work? Haaaaa gitchewww.

okay, to be honest ramai je orang tak berapa nak suka dengan LDR ni. Sebab? Takut partner betray dengan kau. Takut rindu teroxx sampai tak lalu makan? ohh kemon. 

And, to be honest, yes. I'm in a long relationship and yes I'm happy with it. 

Tak sangka dekat nak setahun.

What?

No, it isn't impossible.

Why?

Okay, do read this entry till finish. Then you'll get the answer.

1 of 10 #How To Make a Long Distance Relationship work

Though, Not Impossible

There is no denying that long distance relationships are though. In spite of that, people make them work everyday. Read on through this guide to managing your distance relationship for some great tips on making it work! yayy *tetibe

2 of 10 #How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

Communication is Key

Phone calls and video chat apps such as Skype and the iPhone's Face Time are key to maintaining healthy long distance relationships. Both partners should get a laptop, tablet or smartphone to keep regular visual contact with each other. Bagi aku, kau takpayah nak sms/call duplohpatjam, cukup utk masa masa tertentu kau spend time w/ your partner. Bagi aku, itu lebih bermakna :)

3 of 10 #How To make a Long Distance Relationship Work

Trust each other

This may seem like a no-brainer, but avoiding jealousy in a long distance relationship is very important. And yes, I admit it. After all, it's impossible to know who your significant other is hanging out with at any given time. As though as it may be, you have to be supportive of your partner's social relationships; they can't become a shut in just because you can't go out together.

4 of 10 #How to make a Long Distance Relationship work

Do things together

This may seem like an impossibility with distance looming between you, but distance dates are actually possible. Use online communication to do things together such as cooking the same meal at the same time, watching the same movie at the same time, or sitting outside and looking at the stars together. Online dates are a great thing for distanced couples

5 of 10 #How To make a Long Distance Relationship work

Visit frequently

Doing things together virtually is great, but it's no substitute for true togetherness. Take turns visiting each other, or meet halfway as often as possible to restore intimacy in your relationships. Scheduling these regular visits, even short ones, should be a priority in managing your relationship.

6 of 10 #How to make a Long Distance Relationship work

Stay positive

The loneliness of a distance relationship can sometimes feel more depressing than that of being single. Stick with it- things will get better. Chill babe, miles can't separate two hearts that really care :)

7 of 10 #How to make a Long Distance Relationship work

Plan for the future

Talking about the future and making plans for how and when you will eliminate the miles from your long distance relationship can help make the separation more bearable. First kita mesti tau lah tujuan kau ber- relationship dengan dia. Kalau setakat bercinta bertahun tahun tapi takde hala tuju yang jelas pun tak boleh jugak. And to me, bila aku plan tentang future with him aku rasa matlamat aku dengan dia lebih jelas. Bak kata orang; bukan sekadar omong kosong.

8 of 10 #How to make a Long Distance Relationship work

Appreciate the distance

There are some positives to a long distance relationship. You can appreciate your partner more (absence makes the heart grow fonder), and you avoid all those petty fights over little things. It's also great for couples who need a certain amount of personal space.

9 of 10 #How to make a Long Distance Relationship work

Provide personal comfort

Give your partner a personal object to wear, carry around, or cuddle with for those moments when the distance just seems too great. But to me, just enough sometings that I can carry around, memandangkan I suka travel eheheheh. But depends on you lah, ada orang suka bantal. Tapi aku tidak.

10 of 10 #How to make a Long Distance Relationship work

Be supportive

Be there when your partner needs you. Even if you can't be there physically, be available to talk on the phone, chat online, or video call. Being part of a relationship means providing emotional support, even when its inconvenient. You may not be together physically, but you've made an emotional commitment.

Bagi aku, kesabaran memang sangat diperlukan dalam LDR.

kalau tak sabar, 

memang kau akan give up dengan segera.

Actually,

aku tak pernah expect one day I'll be in LDR. Seriously, tak pernah jangka langsung. Tapi hati sapa boleh tilik kan? Jauh mana kau cuba untuk lari dari kenyataan, tapi sampai satu masa dia akan berbalik semula. Ini yang terjadi pada aku; lebih tepat- Hati aku.

Jujur lah, aku pernah je rasa distance ni sangat bullshit. Tapi bila fikir balik, ada kelebihan dia. Kau jangan nak emo tak memasal aku tumbuk engkau bha. Take time, calm down and appreciate the distance mcm tips kat atas tadi tu. For sure, kau boleh go on je sebenarnya.

Bercakap soal jeles, 

yes. Tipu lah takde woi. Aku jeles lah kot bila orang lain boleh jumpa dia hari hari. Tapi aku?

Lagi satu hal, OVERTHINKING. 

ni sakai mana nak campak pun taktau. Aku kalau dah mula overthinking mesti aku cecepat ubah minda. Set balik minda tu jangan nak merapu sgt. Jangan letakkan masalah yang tak pernah wujud di dalam minda. Okay?

Tapi semua tips kat atas tu memang berkesan. Contoh, enjoyed watching movie together, visit frequently, do same things at the same time etc. 

Aku ada story dekat girlfriends, and she asked me about my long distance relationship

" Weh, kau boleh kan ldr ni. Cemana kau survive ek?"

" Most important things dalam ldr kau kena trust partner kau. Baru boleh go on, bagi aku laa. Sebabnya dia jauh, aku jauh. Apa lagi yang aku boleh buat selain dari percaya?"

" Tapi kau boleh survive, kire orait lah tu..Kalau aku, taktau ah cemana"

And..

Conversation end.

Hakikatnya, memang ada manusia yang masih menganggap ldr ni jarang berjaya. First, bila jauh biasanya partner boleh betray kau. Second, rindu teruk buat kau susah nak move on. Third, nak jumpa pun susah hmmm..

Yes, aku akui.

Tapi, bagi aku bila aku in ldr, aku akan lebih fokus dengan apa yang aku nak sebenarnya. Aku akan plan for future lah opkos, kalau setakat kau bercinta perabis masa ape jadah eh kan. Mesti lah ada perancangan. Satu hal lagi, fikir lah betul betul before buat keputusan. And to me, distance means so little when someone means so much. Tak gitu ?

Okay, rasa cukup dah aku berceramah dan berfalsafah ibarat doktor cinta. Bukan apa, aku rasa excited bila terbaca topik ni so rasa terpanggil nak share disini. Nak ubat rindu pun satu hal jugak sebenarnya adomakkkk. 

So, kepada yang dalam LDR tu korang watlek je. Bagi aku, aku lebih selesa cenggini. More privacy, just two of us kan kan ? Kau takpayah nak sibuk cari attention seeker lah bagai bla bla bla. Cuma kau dan dia; berkongsi cerita apa ada. 

okay enough for today.

Selamat malam! Assalamualaikum.